Post Pregnancy Weight Loss is a very strange thing.
Like a lot of women do, I worked out a lot leading up to my wedding day. I was really hoping to look good in that wedding dress. All the exercise combined with all the stress to help me meet my goals, and I got to feel super sexy running around Greece in a bikini on our honeymoon.
Then came normal life. When I could no longer jog 2 1/2 miles every day, felt silly doing a pilates video in front of my husband every morning and hadn’t yet found anywhere to do yoga three times a week. I gained about 10 pounds.
I was also feeling all the euphoria of wedded bliss. How silly it seemed to worry about things like “eating right.” Worry about money, sure, but whether or not to eat the hot chocolate brownie covered in vanilla ice cream that my adoring husband wants to share with me, not so much. This added another 10 pounds.
About 6 months into our marriage we found out we were pregnant. Very exciting news. We went to the doctor for that first check up and they had me fill out a form that included things like my pre-pregnancy weight. I had to guess since I hadn’t stood on a scale in over 6 months and the last scale I used only measured in Kilos. I was a little disappointed when it came time to step on the actual pound-declaring scale.
It was hard to watch my weight while I was pregnant. When the nausea was at its worst I lost weight, but I also got zero exercise. Then I felt nervous about picking it up again when all the pregnancy books warn about changing your exercise habits while pregnant. For awhile the only thing that helped me feel better was an egg mcmuffin in the morning. I wasn’t supposed to eat sandwich meat and the idea of a frozen healthy choice meal for lunch (which I used to eat frequently) suddenly turned my stomach. I never hesitated if I felt like eating seconds. Even with all this I didn’t fare too badly. I gained a total of 40 pounds during my pregnancy and never topped the dreaded (at least, I dreaded it) 200 pound mark.
Now that we’ve covered the weight gain we can tackle the weight loss, which is actually the point of this post.
We came home with our new born baby 6 hours after she was born, so the weight that I had lost was pretty much exactly the weight of the baby, 10 pounds. (Rori was 9 lbs 5 oz, so I also lost 11 oz of other things- you can imagine)
But never before had I felt so skinny! I mean, how often do you lose 10 pounds in a single day? I could hug my husband again, bend over, see my toes; it was all very exciting. I was once again the only human being residing in my body and it felt good.
But pretty soon I looked in the mirror and saw that I weighed more than I had ever weighed in my entire life, and I no-longer had the excuse of being pregnant.
By the end of the first week I’d lost another 10 pounds, just through nursing and losing the extra fluid and blood that your body no longer needs. I was feeling good again. At this rate I’d be back to my wedding weight by Christmas. And I fully intended to see that happen.
By the end of the 6 week post partum period I had walked/nursed off another 10 pounds, but I was thoroughly depressed. How had I gone from feeling insanely skinny to losing 20 pounds and feeling insanely fat? This is the mystery of post pregnancy weight loss. You are significantly lighter and significantly heavier at the same time, it just depends on how far back you look.
In January I was determined to attack the plateau on which I found myself. I bought “You on a Diet” by Dr. Oz and joined the local YMCA where the free child care helped motivate me to go to the gym regularly. I lost another 15 pounds but gained back 5 when I stopped following the diet as closely.
I was at another plateau. This time we switched from the Y to Gold’s Gym, which turned out to be cheaper. It also turned out to have an indoor pool, a hot tub, individual tvs on the cardio machines and a much more challenging Yoga class.
And here I am. I’ve lost 50 pounds in the last year. Although I feel like saying that is misleading, since a chunk of that was baby or baby related, but I also feel like it’s an accomplishment I don’t often appreciate. I mean that is really a lot of weight. I remember looking at my pre-pregnancy clothes and thinking, “How did I ever fit into these? If I ever fit into them again I am not allowed to ever think I’m fat!” Well, they fit again, but I still look in the mirror or stand on the scale and see the weight I have left to lose. What’s up with that?
It’s silly I know. But even though I think it would be nice to lose 5 or 10 more pounds, these days it feels more like a fun challenge then an overwhelming task. In yoga class I’m always trying to sink a little lower, raise my leg a little higher, stretch my hips a little more, and it’s been so encouraging to watch my body change, to learn what I am capable of, and to wonder what else I can achieve.
I think throughout this whole experience God has been working on my heart. He’s taught me the value of beauty, and that you can’t measure it with a scale. But while God loves us exactly as we are and nothing we could ever do could possibly make him love us more than he already does right now, I think he also doesn’t want us to be too easily satisfied with ourselves. Sometimes there’s a reason we don’t like what we see in the mirror. Sometimes the mirror is on the wall, but sometimes it’s a friend, or a spouse, or a child, and we realize that it’s time for change, for discipline, and a new attitude to set in. And I think God is a perfect traveling companion for these journeys. He comforts us when we hit a plateau or just realize we’ve still got a long way to go. He celebrates with us when we find victory. And all along the way he longs to show us that He loves us right now and right now He thinks we are beautiful.